I Didn’t See The Signs…

If you live in the UK you could share in one of my particular frustrations: the sheer volume of signs on our roads. It’s like we have made an industry out of producing and erecting them, often clustered together within just a few meters of each other. Even when driving at a steady pace, it’s…

Are We Losing Trust in Trust?

Our trust has been broken so many times that we no longer trust “trust”. What do I mean by that? Well, if someone says “trust me”, we’re becoming more inclined to respond sceptically or defensively. The tele-sales rep tells us “I’m not trying to sell you anything!” because if they said they were trying to sell…

The Hardest Part of An Easy Life

Not doing something is often all too easy. Like not making a difficult decision. Or postponing a difficult conversation. Or not writing a new blog post in six weeks. That’s easy; I just don’t do it. Not exercising is easy. Not dieting is easy. Not prioritising your goals and dreams is easy. Being a passenger…

A Bad Influence

A familiar phrase that you’ll have heard, and probably used at some point, is that someone (or something) has been a “bad influence” on you. Usually we refer to this “bad influence” when we’ve made a decision that we’ve come to regret. We’ve all made choices we regret. Some of those regrets may relate to…

The Attraction of The Highly Unlikely

Last year the UK’s National Lottery organisers changed how the game worked and, in doing so, they decreased the odds of winning from 1 in 14 million to 1 in 49 million. They took this decision as, over the course of some years, ticket sales had been on a constant decline. But the decision to…

The “Five Ones”

If you’re like most people, you’ll probably have a lot of things going on in your life and work right now. As a result you’ll doubtless be facing a variety of priorities. I’ve written before about how challenging (and ridiculous) it is to have more than one priority at any given time.  Nonetheless, the reality is…

Choose and Leap or Fail and Fall

When you slip and fall gravity pulls you down. It’s the knowledge of that awesome and consistent power that generally keeps us from leaping off a cliff edge into an abyss. Sometimes we have to make a change in our lives, either of our own choice or when a situation forces us to do so.…

Painful Truths

The truth can be painful sometimes, it’s why some people avoid it. If you’re unhappy with your weight, the painful truth is that your weight is a direct result of your actions. If you’re unhappy with your job, the painful truth is that you are choosing to be there; your work place doesn’t hold you prisoner. If you’re…

Situational Confidence

Speaking in public regularly tops the list of people’s greatest fears – higher even than the fear of death. It would seem that speaking in public is a common fear; many people don’t naturally have the confidence for it. On the other hand, I love to speak in public; I still get nervous, but I…

Choose Your Words Carefully

Our use of language, and the words we choose, reflect our thoughts and motivations. That’s why it’s so important to choose your words with care, to be mindful of the language you use. Becoming conscious of the words you use, and then changing them, is the first step to adjusting your mindset and taking full…